As a blogger I'm surprised about (at least :)) one thing: of those people, who decide to start a blog discussing their personal life and many times their significant other, without telling their spouse. There they are, babling about their intimate secrets to the web, telling about fights they've had or how much (in this moment in time) they hate/love their spouses behavior etc. And many times, they tell their friends to read the blog. With few strokes of their wordpad and clicks of their mouse it's all out there, forever online.
And one day, it happens: their spouse somehow finds out..
How would you feel if it happend to you? To me, that would be a terrible break of trust. I understand that if in your relationship you have for example problems, that you would write to an anonymous webgroop to ask advice and so on, but to do it in blog form?
Here's a thought: how about turning a way from your computer and facing your significant other? Telling them those things that upset or bother you or even make you happy? I think that best way to communicate in your relationship is to do it face to face, not via blog :) Maybe it woud be best to be online in reality not in virtual reality..And perhaps that way the problems one is having in one's relationship would get better..But hey, that's just me :)
Miltä sinusta tuntuisi, jos näin kävisi sinulle? Minusta tuollainen teko tuntuisi luottamuksen pettämiseltä. Ymmärrän, että jos esim. suhteessa on ongelmia, että asiaa ruotii vaikkapa jollain anonyymillä keskustelupalstalla, mutta että blogissa?
Tässä siis ehdotus: ehkä tällaisen ihmissuhdebloggaajan olisi hyvä siirtyä koneen äärestä oman kumppaninsa seuraan. Kertoa kasvotusten nämä tuntonsa. Omasta mielestäni ihmissuhde kuuluu hoitaa naamatusten, ei blogin välityksellä. Olla ihmissuhteessa läsnä reaalitodellisuudessa ei virtuaalitodellisuudessa..Ehkä näin ne ongelmatkin ratkeaisivat.. Mutta tämä on vain minun näkemykseni :)
By Crumpet
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